The Heroes group on LinkedIn is a discussion forum that is an adjunct to Ed Bostick’s Zoom men’s coaching group. You must be a member of Heroes before you can join the LinkedIn discussion group.

  • If you are not already a member of Heroes, you can read about Heroes: A Men’s Coaching Group here. You can contact Ed Bostick at (303) 351-2399 or ed@bostickhypnotherapy.com.
  • If you wish to join Heroes, contact Ed Bostick here.

If you are a member of Heroes and need to join the discussion forum, follow these steps:

  1. Create a FREE LinkedIn Profile, if you don’t have one already. If you are new to LinkedIn, it is recommended that you complete the basic profile process and please add a headshot. 
  2. Accept a LinkedIn Connect Request from Ed Bostick. Your invitation will appear in your LinkedIn Notifications.
  3. Accept a Group Membership Invitation from “Heroes: A Men’s Group” to be admitted to the private group. Your group membership invitation will appear in LinkedIn Notifications.

Please read the group posts: “Heroes Men’s Agreement” and “Expectations for Heroes: A Men’s Coaching Group”. Posts to the group are moderated by Ed.

 

 

Men's Group

At some point in mid-life, we find ourselves “questioning…”
It often starts with a quiet inner voice that asks, “What have I achieved? What am I still capable of becoming?” As time passes, that whisper becomes a bit louder, and we no longer wonder whether or not we had that thought; we now clearly hear it. That voice inside our head intrudes on our ability to stay focused and asks, “What’s left?” Ultimately, and as even more days, weeks, or months come and go, we now nervously ask ourselves, “Is there anything more??”

Rudely aroused from our slumber, and with the clock ticking, we now consciously contemplate the next chapter in our lives. That once quiet voice has become a loud roar; it shakes us to our core, and we shudder, realizing that the time has come to either take action and heed the roar, or do whatever is necessary to silence the voice, thus continuing to exist – but not truly live! – as an inner part of us dies more each day.
Now I have a question for you: What’s your story … so far?
If you relate all too well to the scenario described above, then I invite you to join five other men, as we explore, discover, and take action to bring needed change to our lives. We have the opportunity to answer the call, “What’s missing in my life?” And if we fail to respond…

The roar grows louder.

“Our abandoned, unrealized, or underdeveloped talents, when they are not fully integrated into our lives, can become profoundly troublesome in mid-life, leading us to depression, suddenly hating our spouses, our jobs, or even our lives. When our unlived lives are brought to consciousness, however, they can become the fuel that can propel us beyond our limitations even if our outer circumstances cannot always be visibly altered.”

– From the book jacket “Living Your Unlived Life: Coping With Unrealized Dreams And Fulfilling Your purpose In The Second Half Of Life.” – Robert A. Johnson & Jerry M. Ruhl, Ph.D.

We all go off to the wars each day: at work, while juggling the household chores and children’s demands, when confronting the unending oppositions that tie life up in knots. We keenly sense that we have become disconnected from something essential. Perhaps our relationship has lost some of its magical power. Maybe we feel like time is running out. In childhood, we all have heroes whom we worshipped because they carried within them some of our as yet unlived capacities. The possibilities remain, and these are the potentials that are ripe and ready for development.

The solution is to explore, discover, experiment, benchmark, and set new goals in a safe and supportive container: Heroes: A Men’s Coaching Group. Heroes is a place where you can come to discover the “Next Chapter in Your Life.”

 

Who are the men who sign on to this journey? Here are some examples:

 

You work at a job that’s paying the bills but killing you slowly.

You are in an unsatisfying relationship: you have feared to leave or to stay in that relationship because you’re concerned about isolating yourself even more.

You may have neglected your health and think it’s too late to change, but know you must do something before it’s too late.

What does it mean to be sent home? Furloughed? Forced to take early retirement? Pushed out? 

When what you think you really need, or what you believe truly defines you, has been taken away, what does that mean?  Who are you now? Who were you ever?

 

The “Heroes” process is about both your childhood and the next chapter in your life.

 

Over the past decade as a practicing psychotherapist, I have witnessed an alarming decline in my male clients’ sense of self. Many question who they are now. Some feel cheated. Some silently wonder about their purpose at this stage in their lives. And some frequently ask themselves, “Is there a life beyond the decades of striving and attainment?” whether it pertains to their careers, marriage, health, raising kids, communal involvement, etc. The answers are often even more elusive than the question.

Very often, ego-identity is inextricably linked to status at work, at home, in the social milieu, or in extended families. Untangling such a large, interconnected series of knots can be daunting, so men often maintain the status quo, continuing to tread water.

What happens, however, when all that stops, or keeps going but may need to stop? What’s left? 

What do men do? Left with no identifiable purpose, a loss of social identity, and no support from other men, where can all of this possibly lead?

Men typically go through the motions, and to all outward appearances, are highly successful. We are made up of entrepreneurs, executives, breadwinners, bootstrappers, community icons, small business owners, alpha males – and, sadly, some are the loneliest men in the world. A diminishing sense of self, punctuated with the drudgery of going to an energy-sucking job, postpones the inevitable. Still, we hang in there, toughing it out and manning up, because what other choices exist? After all, that’s what “real men” do, isn’t it? We ride it out, killing time until the day arrives when this series of indecisive moments erupt into a crisis.

 

IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!

Join Heroes and Begin the Journey

Ed Bostick
Ed Bostick, MPA, NLP, CCHT

I’ve been there and I know what it’s like: high profile, manager, executive, responsible for a high functioning team, quarterly metrics, vulnerable to market whims and board/shareholders…bosses, customers, vendors, team members, direct reports – welcome to the modern workplace! Whether you are looking for a personal or career transition, hanging in there until retirement, transfer, or promotion, or simply looking to maintain your health and vigor in challenging situations, hypnotherapy coupled with NLP is a powerful and transformative tool for changing self-defeating behaviors and setting and achieving goals. It starts with you, and it can start today. I am passionate about helping my fellow male travelers grow and change, and I look forward to hearing from you.  

Join Us!

For an overview of Heroes: A Men’s Coaching Group, click here.

The Calendar of Events has the latest information about meeting times.

  –  Ed Bostick, MPA, NLP, CCHT

Brain

Hypnosis results in an altered, trance-like state of consciousness, but what does that mean from a neurological perspective?

Brainwaves sound “new age.” Are brainwaves real and how are they used in medicine?

Brainwaves are electrical impulses in the brain that were first measured in humans by Hans Berger in 1924 using an electroencephalogram (EEG). Neuroscientists later discovered through EEG studies that brainwave patterns fall into five patterns that correspond to various levels of brain activity, ranging from being highly excited to deep sleep. Neurologists use EEG recordings routinely to diagnose brain health.

And what are hypnosis and hypnotherapy?

Hypnosis alters the brainwave state which has been demonstrated in neurological research. Hypnotherapists use hypnosis as a therapeutic tool to alter the brain’s state of consciousness, rendering it calmer, focused, and open to suggestion, fortunately, without the need for an EEG device! In the hypnotic state, a qualified hypnotherapist guides the patient toward behavioral changes that overcome anxieties and unhelpful mental habits. This article describes the relationship between brainwaves, their associated mental states, and hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy and Brainwaves

To determine which brain wave states yield optimal results, ask yourself, “What is my intention?” , “What do I intend to accomplish?” We all know through experience that certain brain wave states are more advantageous than others to reaching an immediate goal. To be certain of the goal and clear on intent then one can calibrate through hypnotic suggestion the most effective state of brain wave activity for the task at hand.

Let me break this down:

Brain Wave State: There are five major brain wave states commonly measured by electrical frequencies generated by neurons (brain cells), Gamma, Beta, Alpha, Theta, Delta. But science has discovered there are also brain cells in our gut and in our digestive system as well. How often do you find yourself saying: “I really want to accomplish this task—my mind says I have a deadline and my gut says—”there’s something not quite right here”, and maybe even your digestive system speaks up and says “I’m blocked nothing is getting through.”

Clearly, there is “dis-alignment” in the mind/body which may show up as anxiety, procrastination, stress, disrupted sleep, chronic or persistent pain and so on.

The bottom line: the goal is not achieved.

The solution is to align your thoughts through hypnotherapy techniques which trigger the actual electrical-chemical reactions in the brain and get the results you desire expressed through your body. It turns out that when this alignment is induced and the appropriate (for the task) brain waves are generated, we experience a condition known as “flow”. One way to think of flow is when you are “in the zone”, everything is clicking, you move seamlessly through your tasks, goals are quickly accomplished, stress is reduced, anxiety decreases, sleep is restored, and pain is diminished. The job gets done!

The clear advantage here is that by practicing hypnosis and experiencing hypnotherapy, goals are achieved without medications, without side effects, without sitting in waiting rooms waiting for your number to be called in order to have 15 minutes with a provider.

This Chart Explains the Goals of Hypnotherapy Practice as Related to Brainwaves

Key brain wave frequency states
Natural calibration vs. medication induced

Gamma Waves

These are involved in higher processing tasks as well as cognitive functioning. Gamma waves are important for learning, memory and information processing. It is thought that the 40 Hz gamma wave is important for the binding of our senses about perception and are involved in learning new material. It has been found that individuals who are mentally challenged and have learning disabilities tend to have lower gamma activity than average.

  • Frequency range: 40 Hz to l00 Hz (Highest)
  • Too much: Anxiety, high arousal, stress
  • Too little: ADHD, depression, learning disabilities
  • Optimal: Binding senses, cognition, information processing, learning, perception, REM sleep

Increase gamma waves: Meditation, hypnosis, stillness, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), light and sound therapy, personal coaching

Beta Waves

These are known as high-frequency low amplitude brain waves that are commonly observed while we are awake. They are involved in conscious thought, logical thinking, and tend to have a stimulating effect. Having the right amount of beta waves allows us to focus on completing school or work-based tasks easily. Having too much beta may lead to us experiencing excessive stress and/or anxiety. The higher beta frequencies are associated with high levels of arousal. When you drink caffeine or have another stimulant, your beta activity will naturally increase. Think of these as being very fast brain waves that most people exhibit throughout the day to complete conscious tasks such as critical thinking, writing, reading, and socialization.

  • Frequency range: 12 Hz to 40 Hz (High)
  • Too much: Adrenaline, anxiety, high arousal, inability to relax, stress
  • Too little: ADHD, daydreaming, depression, poor cognition
  • Optimal: Conscious focus, memory, problem-solving
  • Increase beta waves: Hypnosis, meditation, stillness, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), light and sound therapy, personal coaching, coffee, energy drinks, various stimulants

Alpha Waves

This frequency range bridges the gap between our conscious thinking and subconscious mind. In other words, alpha is the frequency range between beta and theta. It helps us calm down when necessary and promotes feelings of deep relaxation. If we become stressed, a phenomenon called “alpha blocking” may occur which involves excessive beta activity and very little alpha. Essentially the beta waves “block” out the production of alpha waves because we become too aroused.

  • Frequency range: 8 Hz to 12 Hz (Moderate)
  • Too much: Daydreaming, inability to focus, too relaxed
  • Too little: Anxiety, high stress, insomnia, OCD
  • Optimal: Relaxation
  • Increase alpha waves: Hypnosis, meditation, stillness, regression therapy, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), light and sound therapy, personal coaching, alcohol, marijuana, relaxants, antidepressants

Theta Waves

This frequency range is involved in daydreaming and sleep. Theta waves are connected to us experiencing and feeling deep and raw emotions. Too much theta activity may make people prone to bouts of depression and may make them “highly suggestible” because they are in a deeply relaxed, semi-hypnotic state. Theta has its benefits of helping improve our intuition, creativity, and makes us feel more natural. It is also involved in restorative sleep. If theta isn’t produced in excess during our waking hours, it is a very helpful brain wave range.

  • Frequency range: 4 Hz to 8 Hz (Slow)
  • Too much: ADHD, depression, hyperactivity, impulsivity, inattentiveness
  • Too little: Anxiety, poor emotional awareness, stress
  • Optimal: Creativity, emotional connection, intuition, relaxation
  • Increase theta waves: Hypnosis, meditation, stillness, regression therapy, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), light and sound therapy, personal coaching, depressants

Delta Waves

These are the slowest recorded brain waves in human beings. They are found most often in infants as well as young children. As we age, we tend to produce less delta even during deep sleep. They are associated with the deepest levels of relaxation and restorative, healing sleep. They have also been found to be involved in unconscious bodily functions such as regulating heartbeat and digestion. Adequate production of delta waves helps us feel completely rejuvenated after we wake up from a good night’s sleep. If there is abnormal delta activity, an individual may experience learning disabilities or have difficulties maintaining conscious awareness (such as in cases of brain injuries).

  • Frequency range: 0 Hz to 4 Hz (Slowest)
  • Too much: Brain injuries, learning problems, inability to think, severe ADHD
  • Too little: Inability to rejuvenate the body, inability to revitalize the brain, poor sleep
  • Optimal: Immune system, natural healing, restorative / deep sleep
  • Increase delta waves: Hypnosis, meditation, stillness, regression therapy, light and sound therapy, sleep, personal coaching, depressants

Isn’t nice to know we all possess the ability to heal ourselves, accomplish our goals and enjoy life more fully!

For more information

Contact Ed Bostick, Hypnotherapist MPA, CCHt, NLP Practitioner at 303-351-2399.

ed@bostickhypnotherapy.com

www.bostickhypnotherapy.com